Friday, November 28, 2008

Making a Difference

It really doesn't take much to make a difference in this world. Usually it only takes a willingness to be useful. If you are feeling lonely and alone, give yourself the permission to care for and give to others. Most often what we feel we are missing, is in direction porportion to what we need to give.

Move outside yourself. Learn to love, let others live their lives and be free.


Wednesday, November 26, 2008


Oh, how hard it is for us to be thankful. We can rarely muster a "thank you." There is no wonder that so many find it hard to be thankful. If you are alive, you should be thankful.

Plain and simple!

All it takes is life to live. Live your life.


Tuesday, November 25, 2008

More and More

More and more I find people have become whinners. They only want to give when it is of benefit to them, but are ready to take at any given moment. Instead of wanting more and more, we need to learn to do with less and less.

Needing, wanting, and desiring less is the answer to many of our problems. Giving more is the best way to feel satisfied because it allows you to come out of yourself each time you give to another.

Let us practice giving more and more by learning to take less and less.


Monday, November 24, 2008


The thing that is so wonderfully amazing about relationships is that they are fluid. They are never out of flux. We must remember that when we find ourselves wanting things to be "the way they were." It is not realistic to expect relationships to change when that's all that people do on a consistent basis--change.

Change is an inevitable part of the growth process. Although seemingly the hardest thing to do, change often comes easy once acceptance is partnered with it. It is easy to change when we accept that change is a part of being a human being. We are not solely driven by our instincts. We can make choices and make the decision to stick with or abandon any choice we may make.

Choosing to stick with the choices we make is what the book Get Out of the Way! Claim God's Will for Your Marriage, is all about. Staying married is important and vital to America's existence. Everything in America is geared toward the family unit. The subsequent breakdown of moral obligation has left the family in a bad situation. The financial crisis we are now experiencing is a direct result of people not sticking to their committments.

We must continue to be amazed by our ability to change and allow amazing things to happen when we do.


Sunday, November 23, 2008

Understanding Is Mellow

The time has come in my life that I have had to accept some simple truths. By doing so, I have relieved myself of the duty of taking care of everyone else. I now take care of me first and I have found I need little to make it through the day, except understanding. Whether it is understanding myself, being understood, or understanding others; I have grasped the concept of "To Thineself be true."

Friday, November 21, 2008

Learning to Live and Let Live

I completely understand how people can become control freaks. Yes, I said it. Control freaks. There are women and men who because of their level of responsibility, or sense of their level of responsibility, who feel completely okay with attempting to tell others how they should live their lives. They actually feel they know what is better for others. These people tend to have lots of people around them because most likely they are taking care of, or enabling those they come into contact with.

We must learn to live and let live. We must find a way to give those around us what they need not what we think they need. We all can walk in the light. We must be happy for others and let them make the choices that will shape their destiny just as we must do for ourselves.


Thursday, November 20, 2008

Second Time Around

There is an interesting truth. Many divorced men have been quoted to say that their first wife was the best wife. Isn't it funny that they couldn't recognize that when they were with them? More and more people are waking up to the reality that divorce just may not be the only solution to marital problems.

I can't tell you how many divorced people have told me that they wish they had stayed married and tried harder. This is what we need to do. Stay married and try harder.


Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Fight to Become Friends

Marriage is not for the fant of heart. You must be willing to go into the ring time and time again fighting to become better friends. Unfortunately, when most married people fight, they use the opportunity to stack another reason to hate the person, or to think of getting a divorce.

In all actuality, when couples are in a disagreement it opens up an opportunity for them to learn what the other needs. If we want to be closer to our mate, we must be more willing to do things that will please them. Oftentimes, we're looking more towards our needs and have little desire to reach out to our loved one.

If we must fight, we must know that fighting is not the worse thing, if we really care about the other person and pay attention to what is upsetting them, we very well may be able to learn what we need to do to help desolve some of the chaos that causes us to fight in the first place.

Monday, November 17, 2008

Michelle Obama Did It!

Like so many women who marry, Michelle Obama wanted the fairytale. She was fortunate to come from a two parent home. Her father was home every night for dinner. After marrying Barack, she became despondent when Barack decided to run for office and was never home. She was wanting what she grew up with, which was fine for her father, but she was married to a man with greater vision. She admitted that she had thought of leaving him, but decided to look at the bigger picture and stayed. She did what my company's latest series of books encourages all married couples to do and that is Get Out of the Way! Claim God's Will for Your Marriage.

Just think how sick she would be now had she not figured out that what was happening in her marriage was for the greater good? Hillary Clinton was faced with similar choices. Being married to a man like Bill should have sent her directly to the divorce court, but she too was able to Get Out of the Way! Claim God's Will for Your Marriage.

No one is saying it, but the financial crisis we are currently in has a lot to do with the high rate of failed marriages that hit the middle class. People hit hard times and instead of staying for "better or for worse, richer or poorer," we run to the judge, instead turning to God for the answers we seek.

It is beyond time for married couples to stop leaning on their own understanding and seek the will of God for their marriage so that we may fulfill God's desire for healthy, stable relationships and families.