Friday, March 6, 2009

No Responsibility

Over and over you hear, "I tried everything and it just didn't work out," when it comes to dealing with their marriage. What they are really saying is, "I did everything 'I Thought to do." Rarely do they mean they prayed and asked for direction. They usually haven't really talked to their spouse about the situation. Many just want a way out. Most often, the way out is as simple as making an effort to give the spouse what they want and need, or following the mandates of the vows they took when they married.

We have to stop thinking we know it all. We must learn to give what we want to get.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

God's Will

So many claim to have prayed for God's will before they divorced their spouse. When you dig a little deeper, it is not hard to see that nine times out of ten, God didn't will the divorce, they did.

It is so easy to fool ourselves into believing we are asking God for help, when in fact, we are asking God to go along with what we know is not right in the first place.

What makes it all so unbearable is to know the feverish rush many couples are in to get married. All the money they are willing to pay for one day, then within a few years they are ready to throw it all away.

Outside of being physically abused, God is not going to tell you to leave your spouse. He has too much invested in your staying together.


Tuesday, January 6, 2009

No Throw Away People

Oftentimes we allow ourselves to become so despondent over what another has done to us, we decided that the best thing to do is just rid them from our lives. If you didn't know, let me be the first to tell you; there are no throw away people.

All of us have value. It is those of us who do not recognize our value, or the value of others that come to the conclusion that it is easy to dismiss another's humanity.

I submit it is our obligation to always look for the best, hope for the best, and wish the best for others, especially those who hurt us. Hurt people hurt people. This is how it is, but that does not mean they do not deserve to be alive or acknowledged.

I am not saying you have to deal with those who hurt you, but to think ill of them, wish them harm, or act as though they do not exist, will not make you a better person. As a matter of fact, with each negative thought you diminish your opportunity to rise above any infraction they may have performed.

They next time someone hurts you remember they must really be in a bad place to be so cruel. Pray for them and leave the pain with them.


Sunday, January 4, 2009

Every Time

Every time you ask our Creator for what you want you are doing exactly what is needed to get it.
You have not because you do not ask. Simply ask and believe you have already received it, wait, and watch it all unfold; right before your eyes.

Asking God for what you want. Just make sure what you want is what you are asking for. Know the difference. It makes all the difference in the world.

Know you!


Tuesday, December 30, 2008

A New Leaf

It is most definitely time to recommitt to all your committments. Especially your marriage. Starting over is great at anytime. It gives us renewed spirit and actually refreshes our memory of our goals, wants, needs, and desires for our marriages.

Do it!


Wednesday, December 3, 2008

A New Thing

There is a new thing going in my marriage. It is amazing what it takes for some of us to recognize how important others are to us. My husband and I have found a new appreciation for each other. Doing so has rekindled many feelings of love and understanding.

Invite a new concept into your marriage life. Create a date night, spend time holding each other, hug more, talk more, give more, accept more, love more.

Do a new thing.


Monday, December 1, 2008

Talking to Young People

I was talking to two young adults the other day about relationships. They seem to be under the impression that it is only "young" people who don't want to make a committment. It is strange how people think age really does make a difference in how people live their lives. What matters to people is what matters to them personally. Outside of that, most people don't want to put forth any more effort than necessary to live the lives they proclaim they desire.

People, young or old, are just not willing to stay the course anymore. It doesn't matter what age. Folk are not committed, even when they make committments.